Men tend to compartmentalize their feelings and thoughts about, well, pretty much everything. Women naturally process thoughts and feelings and integrate them into one cohesive “thing.” Men don’t integrate their thoughts and feelings. They tend to file everything away, each thought and emotion getting its own compartment where it sits until the man is ready to deal with it, or not which is many times the case.
Compartmentalization can be a great way of managing difficult parts of your life. But it can backfire too. Some people bottle up all emotions and fail to deal with any of them. Over time, these negative emotions can build up and lead to emotional distress.
However, if you feel vacillating between the two worlds is opening you up to disassociate in ways that are harmful to yourself or the people around you, I encourage you to seek professional help with a mental health professional.
*Note: Photographs are the physical remains of our memories of people and places we loved. Where a moment of happiness is preserved forever. My song choice is Photographs and Memories by Jim Croce. One of my favorite artists, died at the age of 30 (at the height of his career) in a plane crash, like many before him and after.
*Note: who hasn’t felt this way one time or another in their lives. That feeling where all is lost and life seems to be insane at that moment, this is how I have coped with it, perhaps you have too. I always loved this song by George Harrison