Men tend to compartmentalize their feelings and thoughts about, well, pretty much everything. Women naturally process thoughts and feelings and integrate them into one cohesive “thing.” Men don’t integrate their thoughts and feelings. They tend to file everything away, each thought and emotion getting its own compartment where it sits until the man is ready to deal with it, or not which is many times the case.
Compartmentalization can be a great way of managing difficult parts of your life. But it can backfire too. Some people bottle up all emotions and fail to deal with any of them. Over time, these negative emotions can build up and lead to emotional distress.
However, if you feel vacillating between the two worlds is opening you up to disassociate in ways that are harmful to yourself or the people around you, I encourage you to seek professional help with a mental health professional.
Erotic Art (dates back to the Paleolithic Era) as we know is subjective and has always been extremely controversial. What was once taboo in art is now looked upon with a more open minded eye. I refer to Sabari only in relation to contemporary art. Shibari, more correctly known as Kinbaku is an ancient Japanese artistic form of rope bondage that has many styles and uses. It is related in style to other traditional Japanese arts such as Ikebana, Sumi-e (black ink painting) and Chanoyu (the tea ceremony). Among the many uses of Shibari are dynamic living sculpture, shared meditative practice, deep relaxation for flexibility of mind and body, expression of power exchange. This link provides an overview of the photographer and his work https://www.google.com/search?q=nobuyoshi+araki+photography&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-us&client=safari
TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ to its BDSM nature. In 2014, Romanian singer-songwriter NAVI released a Shibari-themed music video, “Picture Perfect”. The highly controversial video, directed by Marian Nica, was banned by Romanian television for its explicit erotic content. In reality it clearly shows a cultural juxtaposition of a marital relationship.
*Note: The 3 minute video link is worth every second of your time.
So, does PTSD ever go away? No, but with effective evidence-based treatment, symptoms can be managed well and can remain dormant for years, even decades. But because the trauma that evokes the symptoms will never go away, there is a possibility for those symptoms to be “triggered” again in the future.
*Note: I’ve taken a bit of a different take on the prompt, enjoy the blues musical selection titled The Devil In You by Celso Salim Band, led by Brazilian guitarist, singer and songwriter Celso Salim, the Celso Salim Band presents a contemporary blues sound rooted in the past. With soulful and energetic performances, their music takes on many styles mixing deep blues with hints of soul, country, jazz and rock. Their music is worth a listen.